Thoughts to Ponder

In the last post I wrote about standing your ground. If you make a choice, you must stick by the decision you have made because afterall, you made it for a reason.  But sometimes you do second guess yourself. You wonder if maybe you are not allowing a human to be flawed and just accepting them for who they are.  If maybe your departure was more for self~proctection rather then for a better well~being.

How do you know the difference?  Is one clue to it all is weather or not the wiork seems greater than the worth? He’s not a bad person, very intelligent even. He’s had his share of issues just as the rest of us.  But I cant take someone whom doesnt seem to try to overcome those issues.  He’s humbled himself time and time again and thats a decent sign of character…But I dont know, perhaps sleeping dogs should just lye.

Tu Shay

Dear Love,

Am I a fool to believe in you?

Tu Shay………Tu Shay

The Answer is YES

The answer to my last question is Yes. Yes Love is stronger than pride. Yes, sometimes (maybe not all the time) but sometimes its OK to be the first to step up to the situation even if you were not the one in the wrong. Yes, a meaningful friendship is more important than who is right and who is wrong.

When the other person is always doing something to wrong you that you have asked them not to do, then its time to examine the association. But if its the first offense and you truly care for the other, then looking past ones flaws is a must if you want to be involved in anything healthy down the road. You are not asked to look past flaws that could be a major detriment to you physically or mentally but you are asked to look past the minor one that may slightly annoy you from time to time.

Maybe in the end, once you can see past and get past the little foxes you can begin to see the beauty of the person….. So the answer is YES

When is it time to walk away?

At what point do you decide to walk away from someone or something? Should you do it on the first disagreement or at the first sign of trouble? Are somethings too petty to allow you to walk away completely or are they usally a sign of whats to come?  If you give in now, will you have to give in always?  Is love REALLY stronger than pride?

What if it wasnt your fault? Then should the person at fault acutally apologize first? Or should it not matter in a real friendship or relationship? I guess thats the question at hand

In a relationship (or frienship) should the one at fault be the one whom comes to apologize first. And if they fail to do so, then should you walk away?

 

Him

How do you know if someone is right for you? Is there really a such thing as “the right one” or is the right one the one whom you can stick with and can stick with you despite your flaws? I have learned my lesson from saying the words ” The one”. Got stung pretty bad and embarrased from my huge mistake in judgement.

I raise this question because there is someone in my world whom is a pretty new to my realm. I am learning more about him as time goes on and there are some things that I certainly question. (As I am sure is the case with him towards me). But we have been back and fourth for a few months now and I can say we are still “cool”. Which is a decent sign because normally fall outs occur within the first month of meeting. If you can make it past that mark then maybe there is something there to look into.

I believe the key is to take it very slow. Take the time to get on the same page and learn the other person. If we rush this then we will be making a grave mistake. Listen to the other, read between the lines, do your own thing in the mean time so that your time isnt wrapped up in one person too early.

I do like him as I have stated in previous post. But that is a very simple and general emotion that we will feel time and time again. I am just going to let God be my guide. YOu can never go wrong with that…

In the mean time I will continue to learn about him as we go and allow him to see the real me slowly but surely. We’ll see what happens…..

Not through his stomach, nor through his pants….

I asked this question time and time again and got various responses

What is the way to a mans heart?

The most common answer is through his stomach…Ladies is this true? I think not. Another answer I got was through his pants…Now we all know that a mans penis is not even remotely related to his heart. So what is the final answer? The answer is ~ Through his EGO.

If you remind a man of his worth you make him come alive and inspire him in ways you never thought possible. If you tell him how much value he possess and what talents exist within him you awaken a new man within him. Every human wants to feel wanted and as though their worth is great.. To a man, its essential. Women fail to inspire men and for that their interest is lost with ease. But the woman that stands by her man and reminds him of all that he is worth is the woman that will in the end win his heart.

Click the following link ~ it says it all!

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Does two in the hand really beat one in the bush?

Just a quick though you all can ponder on

A friend came to me and said that she really didnt believe that there was one out there for her. And that she was tired of making the same mistakes.  I thought about this for a second and besides suggesting the obvious – which is if you are tired of getting the same things, then dont repeat the same actions – I thought of something else.

What is wrong with not investing to much into any one person? What I mean is how about having some there for multiple reasons and talents.  If there is one guy that makes you laugh, then laugh with him, if there is another that you can talk to, then talk to him. if there is one that – well- you know, then that is your choice as to weather that is what you want to do with him. If there is one that you can go out with and have a great time, then go out with him.  Why do we have to call EVERYONE that comes along “the one” and start tossing all our pearls to that which may be swine? (Like her)

I am not suggesting sleeping with all these men, but what I am saying is why cant there be multiple “friends” in your life each possesing a different quality, unique to just him?

I actually just implemented this concept into my own life and I must say, it isnt bad.  I am not looking for anything nor am I expecting it to come my way. I think life is so short that you must have fun and enjoy it while you have it. 

So my point to her is: Gather together a few for yourself, not just one. And enjoy each of them for what each has to bring. They will each have short comings and that is OK. Because all is not to be invested in no particular one.  What do you guys think? Again Ive tried it and it aint so bad..

 

*Make it a great day*

 

Sapp7

 

 

 

 

 

 

The only one for me….

I have made many mistakes in my life in this area. Actaully the sad truth is the fact that so has everyone else. There is so much trash out there masquerading as treasure, that you have to be SO very careful with whom you associate.  The bible tells us to not throw your pearls to swine. I have been guilty of that so very many times. I used to think that meant not to have sex with someone who you didnt love or whom did not love you.  But as I grow I now know that it means so much more. That it means not to connect in anyway, or consult with, nor give any of your treasures to those that dont deserve it. Swine meaning pigs or the lowest forms of life.  Unfortunaltey for me I jump far to quickly into the mudpin before I realized I was swimming with the pigs.  By then I was dirty and bruised.

I have gone for those that arent necessarily physically attracitve nor were they tall nor were they anything that would with the naked eye make a woman turn her head. But I ALWAYS found something in them that noone else saw. Turned out usually to be a grave mistake. For as much as they lacked physically, so they lacked mentally. They were not the one for me. They were not my treasure. (to be honest I dont think they are anyones – because they usually came from some broken and beaten situations).  And found themselves right there with me. I usally attract that type. The down trotten, beaten, broken and less attractive. But there was always something that I found in them that noone else wanted or saw.

But this is a new day. And I wont settle. I am a gorgeous woman, and truthfully I want a man that is equally as appealing to my eye as I am to his.  (these men didnt have that). I want a communicator and a romantic partner.  I want someone whom brings me exictement and knows the right places to touch, stroke and penetrate.  I wont settle for emotional baggage in excess.  I need a strong man one whom has it together (not perfect) but together.

I need the exciting sexual chemistry and someone who is truly a man open to the word of God and not just someone full of Rhetoric and lip service. 

A man that finds a wife finds a good thing. Most men dont find good things. Most men find wives and divorce a short time later.  That ought to tell us that we are doing something wrong. Maybe we arent waiting. Or maybe we are settleing for the swine instead of the prize.

There is alot of trash out there. There are alot of falehoods. We have to take our time and really look into the heart of whom we deal. We have to be prayerful and not be afraid of the answer he gives to us. 

I have a few around me that I keep for different reasons. One makes me feel good (and hes handsome!), one I can talk to about most anything, one is my best friend (and has been for over ten years) one I just call whenever I have a spare moment – but I know that all will be compressed into one and that one will be The only one for me…

*Make it a great day everyone*

 

Sapphire7